At what point can a Christian say to their spouse, “I no longer can accept you in the unity of love and we must end our relationship?” No logic received from God would tell a person to break the unity of marriage.
It does not matter who told you divorce is acceptable, breaking apart what God has joined together is a work initiated by the devil. This is not to place the blame of every divorce solely on the devil, but to say the concept of breaking apart godly unity is evil. Once sin had entered our world, selfishness took over in every heart.
Divorce in our time has become condoned by many; in Corinth, the Christians were accepting divorce as acceptable too. Paul sought to define the importance of not accepting divorce.
The pressure to divorce, promoted within society, is so strong because true forgiveness is almost an unpracticed concept when bitterness is allowed in to two people life’s. If forgiveness was true forgiveness, could there be any reason to divorce?
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 1 Corinthians 7:10-12 (NKJV)
God does not make mistakes, people do. When two are allowed to divorce, the problems are never over. These problems reside in the heart; once divorced each take the problem inside their heart with them to their next relationship.
Divorce is solely a problem of the heart. The person who seeks divorce has long before stopped allowing God to change their heart to forgive. They closed off the truth that God is love and have sought after their own ways.
When their relationship with God began to fail, their heart grew selfishness. Soon they became discontent with each other and wanted better for themselves.
They stopped serving the other and wanted to be served. This is the nature of sin allowed in one’s life. Are you happy with what you have or do you want better or more? If so, do you discuss it with the Lord and submit to His provisions?
When you ask God for more, are you content when He does not provide? This action of asking and submission to Him will keep you serving the Lord and never cause a person to desire divorce.
Staying in love is not self servicing situation. A person cannot neglect a relationship with their spouse and expect it to thrive. When people do, their marriage becomes like a garden overgrown with weeds. What should be producing good fruit from strong plants are dying vines being choked out by weeds and eaten by insects.
To stay in love first begins in a person’s relationship with God. Having this relationship keeps a person understanding their own fallen nature and confessing your sins before God brings understanding of what true love is. For God so loved us He sent His own son Jesus to die for our sins. Jesus loved us so He was obedient even to His own death on the cross.
In this time of relating to God we bring our hardships unto Him. He gives us direction, restores our faith, and He will answer our requests for help in our marriage relationship.
This is so important that there is no reason to take our frustrations to our spouse. When we do, we can unravel the unity God has built. If we take our requests to God it is then we can expect true results.
How does this work? Should a disagreement occur in a marriage being quick to take the disagreement to the Lord is the first action. The second is to ask God to change you or change your spouse. Then if the spouse does not change, you can only point your finger and blame God for not acting. However, I would not be too quick to blame and seek Him more answers.
This action alone can stop bickering which is sure to ensue and often is the beginning of the end of a relationship.
But God is faithful to hear us and answer our prayers. Often we might find ourselves to be the problem and God can then change your heart.
The fruit of the Spirit of God is a result of this type of relationship with Him. The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Therefore, you can see where all this makes for good maintenance for relationships.
Where judgment begins in the house of the Lord, we must consider our own temples to be the primary place judgment begins. We should seek God to understand how we adversely add to or bring help during marital problems.
Is Jesus your Lord? With godliness there is submission and trust. There is nothing which God cannot do and marriages will never end if you put your faith and trust in God.
God is faithful to make things right in your life if you will trust Him with all your heart. This makes way for forgiveness, the restoration of trust, the freshness of your first love, and longevity, which makes marriage a commitment for life.
Trust in God and seek Him.
